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Module 2 · Clarity
Lesson 3 · Clarify your decisions
Indecision will erode all your plans, dreams and desires quicker than any other possible obstacle.
Learn how to make clear decisions with the help of your home.
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Sarah – C
Thank you and applause for completing your computer challenges! I updated my OS on my current laptop without thinking of consequences. Luckily a friend is coming over this evening for us to figure out how to activate MSN office which I was happily using on my NOW out-of-commission Laptop. SO MUCH to research before taking action re: versions etc. sorry you had to buy a new computer just because of some installation glitches. Reminds me of how there are programmed lifelines just after warrantees expire. Ah for a simpler life although zoom and cell phones are appreciated.
Sarah – C
Thank you and applause for completing your computer challenges! I updated my OS on my current laptop without thinking of consequences. Luckily a friend is coming over this evening for us to figure out how to activate MSN office which I was happily using on my NOW out-of-commission previous Laptop. SO MUCH to research before taking action re: versions etc. sorry you had to buy a new computer just because of some installation glitches. Reminds me of how there are programmed breakdowns just after warrantees expire. Ah for a simpler life although zoom and cell phones bare amazing.
So much power in the headline.
I have chosen the living room for my focus and I have gone back to vision from M1L1 today. It looked very different, not in the overall qualities. But some of the vagueness had gone – and I myself have moved to a different internal space from the first time (which in part was why I felt revisiting would be beneficial).
I have also been a lot more on pinterest than every before (there is reason for this madness). Looking at the living room it become very apparent that many of the things herein are more random then intentional.
To give some examples, the dresser is from my childhood home and optimally would be located in the bedroom – it wont be in this home, as the room is too small and I like it as is. So it has to live in the living room.
I got the sofa and floor lamp when moving here, for free, as a friend of mine was moving to smaller and I was doing the opposite. Except for comfort, the sofa has no features or qualities I would have chosen. The cat has not learned to leave sofas alone though and I won’t be bringing it with me, when I leave the country. So it will stay for now. Same goes for the lamp.
So I started looking for inspiration to build the bridge between here and now and the ideal. I think the first steps are becoming clear. I have a color theme in mind and naturally the qualities from the vision.
Using the feeling of my body, I have made a couple of decisions this weekend. One for exchanging the picture over the sofa and a much bigger one for buying two chairs. I will post pictures in the group.
I am a little uncertain how the looks of the chairs fit into my ideal, but they do belong in the “office” zone and the light in my body? Yeh, there was no need for an internal discussion on this. And they do have some specifications, I’ve wanted for years and never found elsewhere (so I figured I’d have to hire someone to build it for me – turns out someone already did).
The headline for this lesson was strong for me. “Indecision will erode all your plans, dreams and desires quicker than any other possible obstacle” Along with another Rima quote I have in front of me when I am on my computer ” Clutter is nothing but postponed decisions” which I try to remember when I am thinking ‘I will leave this for now’… !
The ‘sensible me’ sat in front of my computer and took responsibility for my action of tackling the ‘scary but I know I should do it’ task of updating my operating system and Microsoft office ( I had to buy a new computer last time I did this as it totally screwed the previous one up so I was really quite nervous of doing it!). It took much of the day, but it is done, and hopefully that will be it for quite a long time…. and I know that my work documents are safely accessible for a few more years. And I feel better for facing the challenge rather than putting it off – as I have been for several months now… Another energy drain dealt with.
While the computer was doing its updating over the afternoon, I did a bit of office rearranging… and dusting two wicker figures that I had been thinking I ‘should’ throw out. They are large, and have been with me since University days. But taking care of them told me they are staying – I felt I reconnected to them anew in cleaning them. Making them ‘fresh’ again like my ‘ideal home’.
And then I find myself very tired again. Surprisingly drained from handling /cleaning / tending to things.
Yes Sarah, as you write, for me too, this headline felt very strong. It initiated kind of a “healing shock”, a clear moment of truth. Thank you so much for sharing this and also your experience with the wicker figures, wich I made with a small furniture yesterday: I removed everything from it to clean it and give it away – and discovered it to be the very ideal place for my sewing stuff!
To me it is helpful to start this chapter (Clarity of Decisions) with small decisions, as I recognize it to be connected to internalized, unhealthy beliefs, crucial to overcome on the next level now.
Sarah, fan-tas-tic! Congratulations on your brave action! You say that you are surprised how tired you were afterwards – I’d like to remind you of the picture of an iceberg, which is extremely fitting for the work we are doing here: it might not look like much at times on the outside, but boy, do things happen, most of them under the surface!
As to your wicker figures – remember how during a call a lady shared that in the guided meditation, all the rooms she had worked on already appeared for being part of her ideal life, and the others did not? Sometimes a bit of TLC is all that is needed to move something from ‘clutter’ to ‘I love and will use that thing’!
I had a difficult start with this lesson today. It seems to be a challenge for me, to really and clearly OWN my belongings and specially my decisions. As if I did not believe and trust myself enough. At a certain point I thought about giving up the CYHCYL-course, as well as my Greek lessons and all other “daydreams”, “illusions”, “useless phantasies”… I decided to just follow the structure of the lesson and finally chose my decision to learn this language, first of all for pleasure, enjoying its sound and the beauty of its letters, looking forward to communicate. There it was: everything I needed. No doubt. No need to prove anything to anybody. This was a calm and powerful discovery wich initiated some other activities to get my home clearer and closer to my own. I enjoy this moment of gratitude and peace.